Starting the Conversation about Senior Living Communities
Approaching the topic about downsizing a home and moving to a senior living community with your parents doesn’t have to be a stressful situation. Before starting the conversation, it’s important to be prepared, gather your thoughts, create a list of topics to help you stay focused and putting those ideas on paper. Additionally, be prepared with answers to the common objections about moving to a senior living community. These objections usually include:
“We’re just not ready yet.”
Too often, people decide that they’re ready when a health crisis strikes. By that time, they have fewer options – and the choices they do have are more expensive. The time to start looking at senior living is before they’re “ready” – while they’re healthy, can participate in the decision-making process and can take full advantage of community life. Our residents will usually tell you, “I wish I’d come here five years ago.”
“We can’t afford it.”
It sometimes seems like staying in their house is the most affordable choice – until you compare their actual monthly costs with everything included at a continuing care retirement community like Crestwood Manor. Our residents have found that you can get a lot more service, pleasure and security without paying a lot more. That may surprise your parents.
Perhaps the most important aspect of value is the security you have when you put a sound plan in place for future healthcare needs. Having a full-service continuum of care on site is not only convenient – it’s far more cost-efficient than taking your chances on the prevailing cost of pay-as-you-go health care.
“We’re afraid of spending down our assets.”
That’s a common concern, but our community offers a refundable entrance fee program, so a portion that initial fee is returned to their estate. There is also far greater risk for your assets when waiting too long and potentially finding yourself in a health crisis, forced to spend down your life savings to provide the care you need. We are happy to provide details to their financial and estate advisors, so that they can make plans with confidence.
“We just can’t face selling the house and moving.”
Our Move Ahead Program makes it far easier than you may think. It includes assistance with downsizing – even helping to create a new floor plan that shows belongings in a beautiful new light and donating or selling those items they no longer wish to keep. Move Ahead helps them find the right realtor, stage their home for a successful sale, and even offers financing assistance, so they can move to the community before they sell their house.
“I don’t want to live in one of ‘those places.’”
They may have a false impression of a senior living community, based on clichéd notions of a “nursing home.” One visit will help dispel that idea: our communities are lively places, where people enjoy life more. Science has proven that people actually grow stronger and prevent decline when they live in a community that nurtures wellness and social engagement. That’s one reason we invite prospective residents to come for a visit; they can see for themselves what community life has meant to the people who live here.
“We don’t want to be a burden to our children.”
So many people tell us that. In a community, with a complete healthcare infrastructure ready for virtually any emergency, they can relax and enjoy life. We can respond with the right help immediately when their children can’t. Friends – both neighbors and staff – love them and look out for them every day. Their families can have peace of mind, knowing that parents are cared for.
Consult the Experts
No matter what kind of options your parents may be considering – independent living, personal care or skilled nursing – please bring your questions to us. At Crestwood Manor in Whiting, NJ, we’re here to help. Families turn to us for sound advice on healthcare, wellness and financial issues. Our first obligation is to give good counsel and offer options so that you and your parents can make well-informed decisions together, no matter what you decide.
You’ll find resources right here on this website, but please contact us online with your questions on any senior care issue.